The G-spot – the mysterious female erogenous zone – may not actually exist, says new research.
But for many women and their partners, the quest to find the so-called G-spot has ended in frustration.
The term itself is much more recent – having been popularised by academic Beverly Whipple, along with John Perry in 1982, with their book The G-Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
The work was based on the apparent discovery of G-spots in hundreds of women they interviewed.
Finding the G-spot became a goal in itself, rather than one of several forms of stimulation, says Ms Whipple.
It’s like they have taken my work and twisted it into something that wasn’t intended, she says, while dismissing the “flimsy” Kings College study because it discounted the experiences of lesbians and included sexual positions in which the G-spot was less likely to be stimulated.
Other experts in the field of female sexuality think the cult of the G-spot has been nothing but detrimental for women, feeding anxiety among women and men.
“One of the problems of the so-called discovery of the G-spot, and the amazing orgasms to be enjoyed if your partner can find it, was that it left women and men – who before were thinking that their sexual life was OK – thinking that something was missing.”
The reality is that we are all different and therefore some women may feel things like a G-spot but for others it could be tiny, she says.
Many women don’t enjoy penetrative sex, but the G-spot raised expectations of orgasm through penetration.
What the G-spot did, says Petra Boynton, also a sexual psychologist, was that it gave magazine editors the opportunity to talk about sex in a sanitised way that met reader demands for such discussions but without offending advertisers.
“The G-spot allowed you to go looking for something without saying what it was.”
But the G-spot also became a commercial product, she says, and ill-informed people selling toys to stimulate it would pop up in magazines giving questionable advice.
Identifying a spot inevitably means that while you liberate some women you make others feel inadequate, because we are all different, she says.
The new G-spot, she says, is hormones.
Whether or not the G-spot actually exists in the biological sense is immaterial; if you’ve found a fun and safe way of having sex, that’s something to be enjoyed, not analysed to death.
If there is no such thing as a ‘G-spot’ why does my girlfriend orgasm when stimulated in the area where it is supposed to be?
She likes this kind of stimulation more than any other, so I would say this is evidence of the existence of the g-spot.
I think continued focus on the “G Spot” serves to continue the mystification of female bodies and sexuality, continuing to link stimulation and climax solely to vaginal penetration.
Whatever the G-spot is or is not, the effect definitely exists in at least some women.
With over 15 years of experience, I have an 85% success rate finding the G-Spot in my female partners.
Saying that the female G-spot doesn’t exist is like suggesting that the male prostate gland doesn’t exit.
The same is true of the G-spot in women, and also the N-spot which is located right at the back of the vagina.
The larger the SGs, the easier it is for women to achieve orgasm and the more likely they are to have a G-Spot (which, not coincidentally is that very sensitive area directly where the SGs are).
Source: Err on a G-spot