Meet Vulnerable Narcissism which is someone who thinks that they are really important, really smart, or really special but people just don’t notice it.

The Secret Façade of the Vulnerable Narcissist

At first, they seem so quiet and unobtrusive; a refreshing break from the normal banter of one-up-man-ship that frequently dominates an initial conversation. But then the sly remarks characteristic of inattentiveness began, along with a victimization mentality where the whole world is out to get them, and hypersensitivity to unintentional disparaging comments. The switch is so dramatic that it is hardly noticeable until it becomes unnerving.

The narcissistic qualities of a vulnerable narcissist (VN) are masked by helplessness, emotionality, and reticent behavior. They are not dissimilar to covert or introverted narcissists which fly far under the grandiose radar of a typical narcissist. Here are some signs of a VN:

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12 thoughts on “Meet Vulnerable Narcissism which is someone who thinks that they are really important, really smart, or really special but people just don’t notice it.”

  1. Someone would probably think I have this if they ever bothered to notice me.

  2. How about people who are really smart, but also think theyre worthless sods

  3. Is there a reverse narcissitic parent thing. There has to be. For kids who keep telling people online that their parents are narsissts but really their parents are just parents and it’s the kid that is a piece of work.

  4. People need to stop spreading misinformation about personality disorders, even if they’re not intending to. Acting either really cocky, or deeply insecure and covert about their grandiosity doesn’t automatically qualify as an NPD diagnosis.

  5. What if I think I’m one, but I’m really just a hypochondriac?

    like, a really special hypochondriac that people just don’t notice

  6. Hate this feeling. It’s like having a very high self esteem, but a low confidence. I like me, but I convince myself that nobody else does.

  7. This is not an actual psychological diagnosis. Neither are “covert” or “grandiose” narcissism. There is only Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and then there are pop psychology terms.

  8. This feels kind of like an immune response to garden-variety narcissism.

    Like, if you’re genuinely a narcissist then eventually “I’m special and unique” and “no one treats me like I’m special and unique” are gonna conflict in your head (probably around teenage years). At that point I’d like to think most people realize the truth and join the rest of us down here in the Sisyphean wasteland, but if they don’t then \^this feels like the only other resolution.

    (Or alternatively they are treated like they’re special and unique their whole lives and stay narcissists well into their ~~presidency~~ adulthood.)

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